The most common problem that women experience is the feeling that you ‘can’t get out of your head' during lovemaking. 

It can also be described as ‘I can’t relax in sex’, or ‘I just don’t let go’.

This is the most comprehensive guide on techniques and approaches to get out of your mental noise and into the body.

WITH THESE TECHNIQUES YOU WILL BUILD A SKILL

THIS WILL COMPLETELY CHANGE YOUR QUALITY OF SEX

YOU WILL BE ABLE TO FEEL A LOT MORE IN YOUR BODY IN SEX

YOU WILL DEVELOP MUCH MORE SENSITIVITY

YOU WILL GET AROUSED MUCH FASTER

YOU WILL BECOME MORE ORGASMIC IN A NEW WAY

YOU WILL FEEL MORE FREE AND CREATIVE

YOU WILL MORE NATURAL TO FLOW THROUGH SEX

There are a number of things that make you feel busy in your head during sex.

1. It could be something distracting, such as not being able to leave the thoughts of your work, or things to do, or other worries and distractions.

2. It could be the pressures in the sex itself: feeling pressure to get excited, to be passionate, to be very active, to perform adequately, to orgasm for yourself, to orgasm for him, to please him, and so on…

3. Or maybe it’s anxieties. Feeling anxiety that you won’t feel enough, you won’t get out of your head, you won’t get aroused, you’ll disappoint, you won’t get your orgasm, it will be stressful, it will hurt, it will be scary, and so on…

4. A lot of women also suffer from chronic self-consciousness. You may be uncomfortable in your body, with how it looks. Or you may be very self-conscious about how you are coming across during sex – are you being ok, are you acceptable, is it ok to be like this, etc. This can also be a very strong kind of noise that will block all feelings in sex.

Many women also chronically worry about how well they are doing something sex, whether they are doing it right and whether their partner is enjoying themselves.

Often it is a few of these kinds of mental noise happening at once - and it creates an enormous block to sensation and to your enjoyment of sex.

‘Not being able to let go’ or not ‘being able to relax’ is NOT an issue with letting go or relaxation.

It is an issue with mental noise and being in your head – either in general or with specific issues.

Letting go and relaxing in sex is the RESULT of clearing the mental noise and getting into the moment.

Having a busy head during sex is not just a nuisance: it is the most important problem in your sex life.

If you can’t get out of your head it means you can’t be in your body and you can’t really connect to your sensation much.

You feel a lot less in your body.

You struggle to get aroused.

You can’t get into sex.

You can’t let yourself be and go with the flow.

You can’t feel connected to your lover.

You feel sex as disconnected, mechanical, going through the motions, or stressful and anxious due to your mental struggle.

This problem affects your entire sex and everything you feel.

It may well result in complete dissatisfaction and checking out of your sex life entirely. 

So this is the most important problem to resolve in your sex life.

It is likely that most other problems – not feeling enough, not feeling ok, not getting aroused, struggling with orgasms – originate from your busy head during sex.

INDIRECT METHODS LIKE HAVING A BATH OR MEDITATING DON'T WORK

You may be told 'you just need to relax' but you know it’s not that simple.

You can’t just relax – you’ve already tried.

You may be told you need to practice meditation, relaxation, have warm baths etc – but this will have either no or a marginal / indirect effect. 

You have to resolve this as a practice of sex and a sexual technique.

Letting go and relaxing into sex will happen if you clear mental noise and connect fully with the sensation of sex in the moment.

But not all noise is the same and some noise is very specific and needs specific solutions.

YOU WILL NEED:

SPECIAL MENTAL TECHNIQUES TO BE IN YOUR BODY AND IN THE MOMENT

A RANGE OF THESE TECHNIQUES FOR DIFFERENT THIGNS YOU DO IN SEX

WORK THROUGH SPECIFIC ANXIETIES OR PRESSURES

MORE EFFECTIVE METHOD OF AROUSAL TO CONNECT WITH SEX BETTER

These tehcniques will make a skill that will allow you to feel a lot more, to be free, natural, flowing and to enjoy every moment of sex in its full richness.

This is the most comprehensive guide on techniques and approaches to get out of your mental noise and into the body.